Around 1 in 8 children and young people experience behavioural or emotional problems growing up. For some, these will resolve with time, while others will need professional support.
It can be difficult to know if there is something upsetting a child or young person, but there are ways to spot when something’s wrong. Look out for:
- significant changes in behaviour
- ongoing difficulty sleeping
- withdrawing from social situations
- not wanting to do things they usually like
- self-harm or neglecting themselves
Remember, everyone feels low, angry or anxious at times. But when these changes last for a long time or are significantly affecting them, it might be time to get professional help.
You know your child better than anyone so, if you’re worried, first think if there has been a significant, lasting change in their behaviour.
This could be at home, school or college; with others or on their own; or in relation to specific events or changes in their life.
If you’re concerned or unsure, there is lots of support out there, including professional help in the support section of this page.
MindEd for Families also has information explaining some common behavioural problems in different age groups.
Looking after your own mental health
Parenting or caring for a child or young person can be tough. It’s important to make sure you look after your own mental wellbeing, as this will help you support yourself and those you care about.
Try to recognise and acknowledge when you’re feeling low or overwhelmed. Struggling with something or experiencing your own mental health problems does not make you a bad parent or carer.
It’s completely normal to be worried, scared or helpless during difficult times, and feeling this way is nothing to be ashamed of.
Is there a friend, fellow parent or carer you trust enough to tell how you’re feeling? Maybe there’s family, friends or a colleague who could support you or allow you a break?
There’s plenty of help out there. You should never feel like you have to cope on your own.
Mind has information and suggestions on how to manage¬†parenting with a mental health problem.
Scope has advice on¬†managing stress when caring for a disabled child.
If you’re concerned about a child or young person’s mental health, you can get free, confidential advice via phone, email or webchat from the¬†Young Minds Parents Helpline.
Action for Children¬†has lots of tips to help you spot signs of mental health issues in children and advice on the action you can take to help.
Barnardo’s has also set up the¬†See, Hear, Respond support hub¬†‚Äď a dedicated service to help children, young people and their families or carers with problems caused by the coronavirus outbreak.
Experiencing the loss of a friend or loved one can be extremely difficult. The¬†Childhood Bereavement Network¬†has information and links to national and local organisations you or the child you look after might find helpful.
Any professional that works with children and young people should be able to help you get support. You could talk to a teacher, school nurse, social worker or GP.
You can find more information about¬†NHS children and young people’s mental health services (CYPMHS)¬†on the NHS website. You can also look at¬†your local Clinical Commissioning Group¬†website, and most services also have their own website with information about access, referrals (including whether you can “self-refer”) and contact details ‚Äď try searching in your area for “CYPMHS” or “CAMHS” (children and adolescent mental health services, an older term used for some CYPMHS).
If you are worried about a child or young person who has or may have an eating disorder, check if your local Children and Young People’s Community Eating Disorder Team accepts self-referrals and contact them as soon as possible. You can also speak to your GP.¬†Beat¬†has lots more useful advice for children, young people and adults.
If you look after a child that has additional needs,¬†Mencap, the¬†Mental Health Foundation¬†and¬†the National Autistic Society¬†all have excellent resources and support for parents or carers of children with learning disabilities or autism.
Do not hesitate to¬†get urgent support¬†if you think either you or your child needs it.